You also just sort of sit there for a little while, like either not dead or dead but theres something off about the time it takes you to die and respawn, I'll have to killmyself to test xD

Thanks Masamune and Tai! The grave sound was missing from the game entirely. It now plays as the grave comes down, both when you die and when you see another player die (someone who was already lying dead when you arrived stays silent). Tai, you were right too: the game waited about 0.6 seconds and then faded the screen to black and back before the grave and the revive notice appeared. The original shows them the moment you go down, so the pause and the fade are gone. This is live now (refresh the game to get it).